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Kim Harris: Transforming Pain into Purpose | Ep 41
What if you could transform immense personal tragedy into a powerful mission to uplift others? Join us in this heartfelt episode as we sit down with Kim Harris, a phenomenal woman who has turned her grief and struggles as a single mother into a beacon of hope and resilience. Kim shares the deeply moving story of her life, including the profound grief of losing her children and the formidable challenges she faced while raising her family on a modest income. Her journey through loss, faith, and the creation of her organization, God's Wonderful Woman, will inspire and uplift you.
Throughout this conversation, we discuss the critical role of community support in empowering single mothers. Kim offers invaluable insight into the practical resources and supportive networks that are essential for managing the complexities of single parenting. From balancing multiple jobs to ensuring children's well-being and her own self-care, Kim paints a vivid picture of the struggles and triumphs that single mothers endure. The God's Wonderful Woman initiative is highlighted as a lifeline offering skill-building classes, financial coaching, and a supportive community to help mothers navigate their paths with dignity and hope.
Kim also opens up about her journey of finding love amidst profound loss. The story of her relationship with her husband, Mylon, serves as a powerful reminder of how faith and support can lead to new beginnings even in the darkest times. Their bond, described as a perfect fit designed by God, provided Kim with the strength to balance her grief with the blessings of newfound happiness. This episode is a stirring tribute to the power of resilience, faith, and community in overcoming life's most challenging moments. Don't miss out on Kim’s incredible story of transformation and the insights she offers to help others find their blessed place.
Learn more about Kim Harris: www.godswonderfulwoman.godaddysites.com
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Victoria Odekomaya is a Nigerian American and former drug research scientist turned brand and marketing expert. Through her Creative Agency, LiMStudios, she specializes in brand photography, video creation, and strategic marketing. Victoria's mission is to empower female entrepreneurs to be SEEN, KNOWN, and HEARD, enhancing their visual presence and attracting their ideal customers to build a BANKABLE PERSONAL BRAND. Victoria's scientific background has honed her analytical thinking, attention to detail, and problem-solving skills, which she integrates into her branding strategies. Her 23-year journey to U.S. citizenship reflects the perseverance female entrepreneurs need to overcome challenges in branding and marketing. This fuels her dedication to empower women to achieve their entrepreneurial dreams.
In 2022, Victoria launched the BOSS LADIES CAMPAIGN, giving participants a celebrity photoshoot experience to enhance their confidence and brand visibility. The campaign promotes these women through features in BOSS LADIES magazine, appearances on Victoria's 'OWN YOUR BRAND SHOW', and recognition at the BOSS LADIES GALA. The gala not only celebrates women but also raises funds for local non-profits, so far raising $19,000+ for Dove Recovery House for Women and PINK RIBBON CONNECTION.
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If you could just help a single mother out with one of those things a month, like if you pay for daycare a month. You give her some food a month Because we're making a little bit more than minimum wage but it's not enough to take care of everything. So you're always not buying. You're always struggling. You're living from paycheck to paycheck. I was doing all that but the struggle was still there. We used to fight, be gangsters. My mind almost went there. I wanted to kill everybody. I went to a black, dark place.
Speaker 1:A lot of mothers are still taking a loss. We're losing our kids daily. We need each other. We can't keep beating each other up and trying to look good, better than the other one. Let it all out. But she learned from me. She masked it, she holds it in. She probably go by herself and cry, like I do. I don't want them to see me crying, because I still cry every day. You let his hand go. He needs you. It was just the wrong things around him and it wasn't consistent. So then he's like seeing mom struggle. What is a child to do?
Speaker 2:today's episode is about how do you manage the good and the bad when everything is coming at you, both the good and the bad. And I have a guest with me today. She's gone through everything and you know, as business owners, we go through a lot, especially as female business owners, and my friend here, kim Harris, is going to be breaking everything down, sharing a journey, a story with us to help encourage us and inspire us that, no matter what you might be going through, god is in the details. Oh, thank you so much for coming.
Speaker 1:Oh, I'm so, so excited and I just thank you for having me on your show.
Speaker 2:Look, your story is one that we need to share because, oh my god, like before we even started recording, we've talked a lot about certain things and this year you go married yep got married.
Speaker 1:I got married 2023 of december 16th, that's yeah, I got a wonderful husband Amen. It's a story behind that Look at that.
Speaker 2:And then, on the flip side, you lost a son, your first child.
Speaker 1:I lost my firstborn. Oh my God, my baby. That's my baby. Oh my goodness, that's my baby. That's the one that you just be with all the time Y'all grew up together because that's your first child, so you really don't know a whole lot, right, especially me. I never babysit, never did anything with yours, or so. We grew up together and that's my, that was my baby.
Speaker 2:I lost him in august of 2023 oh, my goodness, and you're running a business. God, god's wonderful woman, god's wonderful woman, look at that. And I'm telling you god's wonderful woman, god's wonderful woman.
Speaker 1:Look at that. And I'm telling you God's wonderful woman came forth and now God is like Now you got to do it. Be my God's wonderful woman that I called you to be, amen. And I understand where he got, where he gave me that title from, because of the much things that I went through, like it was so many storms in my life, but he was able to uphold me through them all. He kept me through them all. But I understand it was for the greater work, like it's. It was it's for somebody else, right, like he picked me to go through this, but what I went through is to help somebody else come out, because that's all I want to do is like I don't want nobody else to go through what I went through.
Speaker 1:Yeah, to feel what I felt, to even have those challenges like that. It was so hard and almost to a point where it's and almost to a point where it was unbearable, to where I could see how suicide comes in. It was to that point. It was to that dark, dark places. Like you just couldn't understand how your life could have so much struggle when you wasn't doing anything to make it happen like that. Wow, and I understand when you chosen and you picked by God, your life ain't your own. So, whatever he taking you through, it is never about you. Wow, it's never about you. You just the person that's going through it. I tell everybody I'll be like hey, I'm light and easy, you know, and I get there from the scriptures. You know what God says. Take up on my yoke.
Speaker 1:You know, my yoke is light, my yoke is easy. So I just tell God I'm light and easy, you take my stuff, because this stuff is hard. That's right, that's right. You take mine and I'm going to take yours.
Speaker 2:No, because, yeah, life can be heavy.
Speaker 1:Life is very heavy. Very heavy and if you don't have that extra like if you just don't have God, I don't know how you make it through it, and then all of a sudden.
Speaker 1:You need a support system, you need people around you to help you. Like when I got my husband, he came right at the perfect time. I didn't even know that this was ahead of me like that. I didn't even know that this was ahead of me like that and that I was going to experience it, not just again this is my second son, right, because you know about 10, 5, 10 years ago you lost another son, yeah.
Speaker 1:I had lost my baby son. Wow, he was seven years old. I had lost him then. So just to have somebody there, you know, to go through something like that again. It was. And then my firstborn, you know, your baby. You know, it is like what?
Speaker 2:Wow, okay, tell us, just take us through the journey of how things happen and walk us through how you, you know, survived it, you know. Just and I'll just start from the beginning like from where God's wonderful woman came from.
Speaker 1:Just to give background, like my baby son was born with spinal muscular atrophies which is SMA, whereas your nerves and muscles are not connected.
Speaker 1:So and it's genetic so when he was born he was bedridden Something that I wouldn't I couldn't even imagine imagine. This is what I'm about to go through my son's bedridden, have no control over his muscles, no, nothing on a ventilator, everything. So I'm taking care of him. He needs 24-hour care. Every two hours I'm up giving him a breathing treatment, doing something because he has to drink. He has a G2. He's on a ventilator. He can't do anything on his own, so I'm up doing stuff. And you know that's where the struggle coming in. You know, then you struggling taking care of the other kid that you have, because now.
Speaker 1:I got two boys now and you're trying to provide for him. You're trying to go to work, but you're a single mom. You're a single mom. You're a single mom. And not only that, you got a degree. So guess what? There's no government assistance for you, none whatsoever. You're, you know, you're over the poverty level, right, but you're really feeling poverty in your home. But they say you're over that level. I don't know what that's about. So that's really how God's Wonderful Woman came about. You know, just going through those struggles, losing things, repose, evictions. You know we're going from house to house, no food, lights out, water out. You know, and I just told God, lord, when you get me through this, another woman is not going to have to experience what I'm going through, because it was a mental thing. I never broke down like I couldn't take it, no more, but I was one hair away from it.
Speaker 2:You know you're featured in the Boss Ladies magazine, which you can get a copy for free to read about this Kim story and so many other women. But one of the things that you said that really stuck with me was like if I just had enough help, you know, to just get through that, I would be fine you know yeah.
Speaker 1:And that's what it's about. If, like when I was going through it like we couldn't get no food stamps, no daycare, no, nothing, no kind of assistance. So if you could just help a single mother out with one of those things a month like if you pay for daycare a month, you give us some food a month, give us some housing assistance or something, because we're we're making a little bit more than minimum wage but it's not enough to take care of everything. So you always end up buying. You always struggling're always struggling. You're living from paycheck to paycheck. You could pay tithes, you could pay offering. You could do it Because I was doing all that praying, fasting, I was doing all that, but the struggle was still there.
Speaker 1:So I thought about it. I said, lord, I'm going to be able to help somebody once a month with one of those things food, daycare, shelter, utilities. If I could just give you a helping hand on that once a month and that's what I do. I got that program to help you. If you need help with rent, you need utilities, food. Don't go without. Daycare assistance, like those are the things that we need, so don't go without. There is help out there. Reach out, get that help, because the government is not helping us for that, because you make a little bit more than what they want you to make, but you don't want to keep being in this little bit. You want more for yourself, right? So sorry I got to not get this so I can have better for me and my children, but that puts you in a bind because you really still need that help. So that's how God's Wonderful Woman came about. Hey, look at all these struggles, look at all these storms that we're going through.
Speaker 2:And we're women of.
Speaker 1:God, why not God's Wonderful Woman? It's like we're Wonder Woman.
Speaker 2:You know the movie Wonder Woman, that inspired me a lot too.
Speaker 1:I watched that movie and it was so much revelation in that movie for me. I mean, it was so unbelievable that God was speaking directly to me and I was like that's why you call me God's Wonderful Woman, Because Wonder Woman is one of my favorite characters when I was little, but I could see where that came from, right.
Speaker 1:And so just going through the struggles throughout the days, throughout the years, you know single it's hard. It is, it's very hard as a mother and it can really break you down. Your household is messed up and if you got a son like I had, he's seeing mama crying. He won't do all he can to help mama. So guess what? Guess where? He turned to the streets? Because now he don't have that guidance. He don't have father figures like that. You may have uncles and mens in your life, but everybody don't pay attention like that, right. And you could cry out to people. I cried out to people and cried out for help with my baby, right. But if it's not your own, I don't know how people really react to it. They only going to do a little bit.
Speaker 2:Right. Everybody got their own problems.
Speaker 1:And then it's like you let his hand go. He needs you. Even though he had a dad, he had all that. It was just the wrong things around him and it wasn't consistent. So then he's like seeing mom struggle. She's taking care of his baby brother. He's seeing it daily. What I'm going through.
Speaker 2:Right, that needs 24 hour care yeah that needs 24.
Speaker 1:He hearing the crying, he hearing the praying, he hearing the worship. What is a child to do, a boy that loves his mom and he just won't take care of his mom? He don't want his mom going through none of that, no more. So that's what happens, you know, he found friends in the street and comfort there, and it just led to one thing after another thing and I ended up losing him August, the 25th of 2023, which he was 21. You know my son. He was a football player. He was a natural born athlete I mean natural born. So you know, and it was like dang if somebody could have just grabbed his hand and just held it until he let go.
Speaker 1:That moved me to another foundation. I cry for you. I'm doing it for our young boys. Now. It's called I cry for you Because I cry for you. I'm doing it for our young boys now. It's called I cry for you because I cry for you. I pray for you during the time you was living. I'm crying again for you and you're gone. So I'm just steadily crying for you and I want to do that to help our young men and young ladies starting at the sixth grade, because that's the time where they could go left or right and you could kind of mold them to this way.
Speaker 2:Right right.
Speaker 1:But so many people drop the ball, or we drop the ball, we even drop the ball a lot, and our kids just go that way and then when we oh, oh, come back, come back, it's kind of too late now. So I want to be that kind of mentor that auntie, auntie kim, mama, kim, I want to be that for you. I want to be all the way till you don't need me, no more, right, not till you get grown, right, right, right, but all the way, because when you're grown, you still need, need somebody. That's true, I got so many sons and daughters now and through my son's death, it's like, oh my God, right, they need guidance, they do, they need it. So I'm there for them.
Speaker 1:Wow, Not only for they single moms, but now I'm there for their kids. I'm juggling both of them. Wow, because now I got both hands, because I know what you're going through. That's why your child may get lost, because now you got to work two or three jobs. Who's at home taking care? How is he getting a football, how is she getting a chair? You know, things like that we don't think about as a single mom, but everything falls on us, everything, like when it's a two-parent home you can share the weight. Kids got football, kids got cheer.
Speaker 1:Not only that the payment of all that true, yeah, but when you're a single mom, all that weight falls on you. You got to get them to practice, you got to get them to the games, you got to see if you got the money to pay for their uniforms, stuff, like like that. Like you don't want to say no to your kid because this is something he's really into and enjoy, and then you want to keep him from the street. So, yeah, let me go on ahead. Then, at the same time, I got another child to still take care of 24. So it was always a struggle. It was always a struggle. It was always hard. So it was always a struggle. It was always a struggle. It was always hard. So I said no, we got to have God's wonderful woman to help out and take some of the load off of us single women. You know it takes a village. We need to give some relief to our sisters.
Speaker 2:That's right.
Speaker 1:You know we got to help them Right. Help each other, all right. I get the kids you know Fall in a place like that, instead of us beating each other up, talking about each other, trying to outdo one another Stop. We need each other. Get her baby. She live down the street from you.
Speaker 1:Maybe you could pick up the son and take him Right. Don't just leave him out there. You taking your child to go do something more productive. You see them just out there on the street kicking dust, wishing they had something like it. It's on all of us. We all take part in it. It's up to us to change it. Who else is going to do it? They can't do it. They looking at us Help, and it's up to us to do it. That's why I wanted to do this. God's Wonderful Woman, I want to even open up a building To where we can have classes, boost your skills up For you, a better life for you and your kids, Right? Yes, we want you to have a husband and all that. Yes, that's great, but in the meantime, let's work on you. I love that.
Speaker 1:Let's work on you. I work with you with your skills. I teach you how to manage your money. You need financial coach. I teach you.
Speaker 2:Yeah, because your background is in finance, and not only that.
Speaker 1:I struggle, so I learn how to manage. You know firsthand, firsthand in, how to manage.
Speaker 2:You know firsthand.
Speaker 1:Firsthand and how to budget, how to manage and how to say no to you. No, you can't go get that. You can't get your hair done today. Go on in there and curl your hair yourself. I learned how to do that. I do my own hair Right, you know. Yeah, a lot of stuff. We had to learn how to do Right and how to sacrifice just for a better life for our children and for us. We got to have a peace of mind. We can't worry all day, every day, about bills, kids, what we're going to eat. God always tell us not to worry about that, but it's a natural thing to do that as a human being. Because, guess what? You got two people looking at you like, well, what are we going to eat, mama? That's the first thing out their mouth.
Speaker 1:Ain't good morning what we got to eat. Mama, I'm hungry yeah. You know we got to look at that. So I just want to be that God's wonderful to help you. I don't want to take it from you.
Speaker 2:I just want to help you build you up, and it's not a place of judgments.
Speaker 1:No, no judgment.
Speaker 2:You know whatever is done is already done. What do we do?
Speaker 1:from here and to get it better. To get it better and to help you stay better. Yeah, because it's a lot of cycles that we go through. I went through a lot of cycles. You know. They say quit going around the same mountain over and over. I went around the mountain over and over A couple of them, not just one, but I learned it. One day I woke up and I learned it. I said, okay, now I know not to do that and I know what my triggers was that took it there. I learned all that.
Speaker 1:So I can help you Right Emotionally. I can tell you exactly how you're feeling. Right and it may not be exactly, but it's on that line, because I went through all the emotions. I went through all the feelings, even wanted to kill myself more than once. People don't know the mask that we wear daily, the mask that we wear daily, and everybody look at you like they want to talk to you, get advice, they want to talk to you and you, can you pray, can you do? Can you? But all in all, you dying in the inside.
Speaker 2:We have to mention that you were also and I believe, even still now one of the prayer warriors in church too. Minister, minister, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:I still do it and that's why I said I can even help you on that level Right, every level. We're not leaving none out, because God didn't leave none undone Right.
Speaker 2:And so, speaking to what you were saying, like people you know they don't realize that you're struggling on the inside. Yeah, there's a lot of battle. There's a lot of battle. There's a lot of hurt and pain that you're going through, even though the mask yeah, you know.
Speaker 1:You mask it, you put the whole suit on. You put the whole suit on and you put yourself in the background. Now you're showing up for everybody else, you showing up for everybody else, but you steadily taking blows. I'm talking about like blows, like the enemy's throwing them at you, cheers, so you trying to get them blows. You taking hits here because everybody's throwing their problems on you, so you piling up here, he's hitting you back here, you getting hit on all sides. Your stuff is blowing at you, cheers, your stuff is pulling you, your stuff. Then you got the enemy in the back. Then you got the people coming to you, they throwing it on you, wow.
Speaker 1:So where your relief come in at and it's to maintain your mental, your sanity. I have to spend time in prayer. That's the only way, and I have to release it to God, just on my own time. And I have to process it every time in my mind, like why am I going through this? What is this for? And I have to see the greater in it. Why is this for? Who is this for? What I need to learn out of this? How is this benefiting me? And I have to go through that process over and over and over and over and you study, just getting blows left and right. Things is just happening to you. You be like what is going on? Wow, but I understand now You've chosen for that.
Speaker 1:And he said he ain't going to put no more on you than what you can. That's true, he did say that. He said that, but some of that stuff is a little bit too hard. Hold on, lord, say that he said that stuff, but some of that stuff is a little bit too hard. Oh, hold on, lord. When my son got killed, I couldn't believe it. I couldn't. But I said did you see? The first time I felt. But then even the second time, this was a, this was a I, almost, almost, it was I, I was done. Wow, I was seconds to be done.
Speaker 2:Oh, my God.
Speaker 1:I ain't going to live no more after that. Now that was it, wow. Because the thing is, you be this prayer woman, you want to help single moms, you want to help these kids, you want to help, but then it's like you're doing all you can. You. You didn't even help yourself. You kind of look at yourself like that. You didn't even help the one that was in your home. But I was talking to him, eddie, bringing him to church. You know, he grew up in church you know.
Speaker 1:He say he was saying he knew all about it. He prayed, he knew he knew all about it. It was just that choice. Sometimes they go through certain things and the choices that they make leads to other things. True, I remember our house got shot up one time. Oh, my Like over 45 rounds. Oh, matter of fact, it was like the month before before the year before, in the same month in 2022, in august wow you see what I'm saying, like man.
Speaker 1:You see how the enemy just kept coming oh my goodness, throwing them at me, throwing them at me. My house got shot up then so and it's like, wow, what do we do? Everybody's like you ought to move, turn your back on your kids, put him out all this and that. As a mother, I could never turn my back on my baby. It's just like that's our baby, that's my. I gotta do whatever I could do to help him. I cannot put him out because he ain't got nowhere to go.
Speaker 2:That's right now they need us, yes he need me.
Speaker 1:He knew better, they did what they did, but at the same time he still needs me. He's still my son and I love him dearly. I pray for you, I cry for you. You know it's one of them. So I'm like, okay, god. But then, and all you came back the same month, just a year later, got shot in the head.
Speaker 2:I had a dream that this happened. Oh, my goodness but the dream.
Speaker 1:I had the dream probably about 10, 15 years before it happened. Oh, I had the dream when he was 13. Wow, like he was young, when I had the dream, I had the dream of the scene of the apartment and the yellow tape and he was getting carried out like in a stretcher Because, like I say, my son, he, he was been getting in trouble for a while. Wow, but not bad. Bad, you know, he's not like that, like that, you know, just never just did major stuff, but just constantly being a boy doing stuff, getting suspended, getting expelled from school. You know, after he got grown up he did get locked up. You know, after he got out of school he got locked up. Before, but it was just constantly. He was just a boy.
Speaker 2:Growing up, he was just a boy up.
Speaker 1:He was just a boy. Constantly with the boy constantly doing something. Stop doing that, get out of it. You try to move them in in in different good neighborhoods, but it don't matter, they still find a way, it don't matter. But yeah, it happened, happened. It happened then and I'm like, wow, god, but it changed me and it almost took me out. But then, as I'm going through it, god done gave me my husband. Oh my God, he done came. I done prayed for him. I'm Genesis 2 and 18. All day long I've been praying for him. I told God, even the beginning of 2023, I'm God's wonderful woman.
Speaker 1:That's right, I need a husband and I'm getting married this year. Wow, I have my dress, everything picked out, everything, everything. No kidding Everything. Wow, I just didn't have a man.
Speaker 2:But you were believing in you and ready for it and I stood on Genesis 2 and 18.
Speaker 1:I said, lord, I believe you for my suitable helper, because God said I will go and make you a suitable helper, and that's another thing. As a single mom, we, we, we waste our time with the ones.
Speaker 2:That's not who god has for us, the unsuitable ones the unsuitable ones.
Speaker 1:I call them the imposters, the ones, that's the distractions, that's, that's what they are to keep you from who God has for you and a lot of women. I want to just teach them like you don't got to do all that to get no man, because when a man wants you, a man wants you and he going to let you know and he's coming for you. Not only that, god said he will go and make you a suitable helper so you don't have to wear these little bitty clothes and going to get all this stuff done. I'm probably looking good, but don't be getting all this extra stuff going out your way where you're hurting your pockets and it's taking away from kids' mouth your bills, and all that just to please a man, because that right man is going to love you, for you. He ain't even going to care about that stuff. I mean he's going to love you for you. He ain't even going to care about that stuff. I mean he's going to love you from all of your mess, your dirtiness, your goodness, your smile.
Speaker 1:I mean just for you. My husband is suitable for me. I'm in all of my craziness. Even how I love God, even how I love God, even how I love to entertain with my family, how I love family time, everything just fits so perfect, like a glove. He was just, it was just like a perfect puzzle piece. And God told me about the suitable helper. He, he gave me revelation on that. He said you know, a tailor-made suit, every inch only fits you. Every seam of it is only for you, only you can wear this suit. That's what he showed me, just for you. Everything fits perfectly, perfectly. It's measured out for you, laid out for you Thely Perfectly. It's measured out for you, wow, laid out for you. The blueprint, I mean everything. And that's how our marriage is Like. We got the perfect friendship.
Speaker 1:I couldn't ask for a better husband. And this is my third one, this is husband number three, but I couldn't ask for a better husband. Then my other one too. I said what was I doing? Just practicing. This is husband number three, but I couldn't ask for a better husband. I them other two. I said what was I doing? Just practicing, because this one is like oh my god, he blew my mind, my husband, mylon, is the best man ever and when he came into my life in june and we met on a dating site, y'all so don't sleep on a date in sight y'all I'll tell you. Don't sleep on it. Hey, it works. If it's for you, it's for you and it worked. I was on it one day. I was on one day just one day.
Speaker 1:One day that connection made that connection wow one day. And we both decided at the same time we have to get out this app.
Speaker 2:Wow.
Speaker 1:We already know where we want. That is cool and it was just perfect. And I told God. I was like okay, god, I said I was getting married in October, it's June and I'm telling you June 10th. I met him. We met and guess what? I told him. I said well, and you can see me. And he came, everybody was laughing. My bishop, everybody was just laughing. They was like only you. But I was like, if they wanted to see me, this is where you can go, that's right. The perfect place to church, that's right.
Speaker 1:So he came in my life then at a perfect time. And then here come, august coming. So that was a good thing, that was a blessing, that was something I prayed for. I prayed for my son as well. But it went another way that I wasn't expecting, which it could have went that way because your life, you was living.
Speaker 1:But no, don't do that to me again. You know I've been through that before. I ain't got to do that again. But he's safe. But Mylon, he's definitely been there through it all and it's been a trying time, you know. So now I'm dealing with the good and the bad. And how do you juggle that? You can't. It's like you've got to take it a second by second. Because you have a wonderful husband, you've got a wonderful blessing, everything is taken care of now, y'all not struggling, I mean things is just perfect. But then you lost your son. So now it's like I'm trying to enjoy him, let him know I love him, I appreciate him, but I'm in this bad place and he is so understanding to where I'm in this bad place. But I don't want life, no more.
Speaker 2:Okay, tell me, help me understand the timeline. So you met in June.
Speaker 1:Met in June Uh-huh. Son died in August Uh-huh. We didn't get married until December.
Speaker 2:Right, that's right.
Speaker 1:December we didn't get married until December because I was going to push the wedding back, because I was like I said I didn't want to live, no more. I just I gave up on life, I was just done, it was enough. I was done Like that was enough, like that you couldn't hurt me, no worse, like that was the worst, and still like even to think about it and talk about it it's like, oh my God. And I'm holding back tears. Now I know I can tell, but it's like that was the worst. It was a nightmare. Every day I'm waking up, it's a nightmare. Then I got a wonderful man that's trying to be in my life and trying to be there. You know he want to take me out, have good times, but I'm such a mess. I'm such a mess. So here come another mess. Here come another mess that I got to throw on Because I want him, I don't want to push him away.
Speaker 2:Right, right, you prayed for him.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I prayed for him and God gave me somebody great Right, but I don't want life no more so everything about life was.
Speaker 1:I had to find that back again and it took a long time, even even I'm just now getting up. That's how, like I say, I'm just now getting up to where I'm like, okay, I gotta keep living, because I didn't everything shut down, everything in me shut down. I mean, I was going through the worst. I was waking up every morning with my eyes opening up like am I living this nightmare again? Am I still here? I just didn't want to wake up, no more. But God was touching me, waking me up every morning and I was just going through it. I was having a hard time. I was drinking. I was just like, oh, it was just hard. Where's my cup? Where's my cup? It was like I did not want, I couldn't believe it. It was unbelievable. I'm living this again. I'm living this again. You know, and people didn't understand. I and I still can't explain it like grief, why is grief so hard? Grief is so hard but, like I say, I got a blessing too at the same time. So now I got to come out the grief. So now I'm getting to the point, to where I'm realizing I got my husband after I come out of that dark place, because he was alive.
Speaker 1:Kimani met Mylon, so they got to know each other for like a month and a half or so and they was starting to build a relationship. And I talked to him and I was like what y'all think about us marrying? He was okay with it, he was fine, they got along great. So it was like he passed the torch like here take care of my mama. Even now, to this day, he dreams about him. I don't even have a dream about him. Wow, he talks to my. I'm like why does he keep talking to me? He's not said anything to his mama. It's like they got a relationship. So it's like keep in mind, I'm trusting you with my mom and my sister. That's why you got to take care of her.
Speaker 1:Yep take care of my mom and my sister, and I know that he's with him on that and Mylon is doing the best that he can do. And, like I say, when you got these emotions and these feelings in you, you got to make a choice that you want to come out of it. That's right, because if you don't make a choice, that's the first thing you do is make a choice. But I don't want to be in this place, no more. Like when you realize where you at, because there's a time you're going to come to yourself, you're going to realize, just like the prodigal son I'm sorry, my stuff is just, I'm faith-based. Everything is just lies up with the word, it's always something like it. Everything is just lies up with the word, it's always something like it. So, everything, I just refer back to the word because it's like, yeah, you come to yourself. Right, be like, hold on. Well, you got me here. I might as well get up, start living.
Speaker 2:So you got to make the decision when you come to them.
Speaker 1:But when you wake up, like where am I? I don't all, what is going on, then you make a decision to come out because you got to recognize where you at. And that's what he did. He found himself in that pit. He recognized where he was at first. Then he was like, well, everybody else living better in my dad house. So now he's coming to making a decision. Why am I living in the mud with the bees and all that, everybody living good. So now it's a decision. Why am I living in the mud with the bees and all that, everybody living good. So now it's a decision. Do I want to come up?
Speaker 2:out of this.
Speaker 1:Or do I want to stay here? Because this is the place when you stay here. You don't die here, so it's a choice you make. I wanted to come out of that. It was a deep, dark, bad place and it almost took me to a place where, like when I was young, we used to fight, be gangsters. My mind almost went there. I wanted to kill everybody, everybody, and I didn't care. I went to a black, dark place. It's going to be in the book. It's in the book. It's in the book. It's in the book. It's in the book. There's a book coming out.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:God's Wonderful Woman, I say, is God's Wonderful Woman, the process from me to you. I like that. It's the process from me to you, because he had to transform me all the way around and it just, you know, all the storms, all the what I call them, um stepping stone right in my life that I had to go through, because each one it was another level. All of it's in there, from kid all the way, because when I was young, like I said I, when I was young, I was like eight, nine years old, I was a little girl shouting all in church, I mean like all the stuff like from that, because if I would have known then what I was carrying, then I didn't know I was carrying this kind of anointing. Nobody around me knew it, nobody talked to me, mentored me about that. Like we see people now, I see something on you when we see little kids. Oh, you got something on you.
Speaker 2:You a prayer warrior.
Speaker 1:Nobody was coming up saying that to me, but I had this love for God and I had this heart that I would cry, I would be shouting. I didn't even know nothing about what's going on. I see the grown people doing it, but I would keep Wow, why do I have this in me? I say stuff, things happen. Friends used to be like don't say anything to me, don't dream about me, don't say nothing about me. I don't want you to know, because when you say something, stuff happens, right. I didn't know that was the prayer word, the intercessor in me. God hears your words. Wow. But now I have to learn all of that. So that's how God. So I'm telling you God's Wonderful Woman. It's a whole lot in God's Wonderful Woman and it's so. It's going to be a wonderful book.
Speaker 1:But I am here to help our mothers. A lot of mothers lost, oh God. A lot of mothers took a loss last year. A lot of mothers are still taking a loss. We're losing our kids daily. We need each other. We can't keep beating each other up and trying to look good better than the other one, because your stuff stinks like mine, that's right. Your stuff tastes sweet like mine, however you want to put it, it's the same thing. We're fighting the same battle, which is not flesh and blood, that's right. It's spirits, wickedness, principalities. We are fighting the same battle. So why can't we link up? That's right. Be under this thing, under God, with this God's wonderful woman, help each other, stand in the gap for our children, that's right, because you crying that don't mean another mother got to cry.
Speaker 1:That's what I thought about. I wanted to kill that little boy, kill my son, but I thought about the mother. She about to cry, like me. She about to cry like me. She about to hurt, like me. Do you want her to do that? No, because what if? What if she killed herself? I wanted to kill myself, but what if she actually do it? You took her there. So it's like you. You made her go there because you took her son. Like everybody, don't think like that, but, but I think about stuff like that the future. What is your action about to do to our future? What you're doing now is about to mess up what you did, messed up a whole household. So why somebody else got to be messed up too? Why you don't go back and heal? Pray for that young man, pray for that mother, that their relationship be better, that he'll turn his life around. You'll feel better if you go that route.
Speaker 2:Because even that family is also impacted too.
Speaker 1:They impacted Because now you got a child. The little boy was only 16 years old. That killed my son. Oh my goodness, my son was 21. Goodness, so his life would have been 16. You didn't do anything, right, but nobody deserves it, right? Nobody deserves an early death, nobody deserves their life being cut off, nobody deserves their life being taken. But it happens and we're living with it. So let's stand up and come against it. That's right. That's my thing. Let's join together, link up and fight against this thing. Let's save what we got left. That's right. I got one left, so I got to save her. That's right. She about to enter high school 13.
Speaker 2:Wow, it's no difference from a female to a male and how is she taking it, how she handling all of this? She?
Speaker 1:she mask it, she's, she's, she's just like her mama. She mask it a lot, but I know she's hurting. I hear songs. Sometimes I come in her room and I see things and I be like she must be. Not only that, she lost another brother, big brother, in March of this year.
Speaker 2:Oh no.
Speaker 1:So she lost three brothers altogether now. Oh my goodness. She lost one last year in August and then she lost one this year in March Another big brother, so that was another hit she took. So I'm like God. And then she lost one this year in March Another big brother, so that was another hit she took. So I'm like God. Come on Jesus. So you know, I'm praying hard for her because I'm seeing her life taking hits that she didn't ask for, that she didn't deserve.
Speaker 1:But it's happening to you. But it's happening and I got to help her to deal with it and I want to show her to deal with it and I want to show her that you don't have to mask it, let it all out. But she learned from me she mask it, she holds it in. She probably go by herself and cry like I do. I don't want them to see me crying all day, because I still cry every day. I wake up every day. I want to miss my son, you know, because we talk that was my baby, we talk we was ride or die. You know that's my roadie, that's right. And we talk. So it's like I miss my baby. You go through that and I'm like dang, I know she miss her brother.
Speaker 1:It was just them two in the house, wow. For a while they fight, they argue, but that's how they played with each other, that's right. So now she don't get none of that. He ain't coming through the door when my sister at Mama you know that was him and she be like what's up big head. Then they go at it. It was their love language, that's right.
Speaker 1:So I know she missed that. We look at the door. He ain't coming through the door Because when they 21, they don't live with you, totally Right right, they all over the place. So we're dealing with that. But she's doing better. She's been a cheerleader at LN now. So she's finding something for her to do, and that's another thing you got to do.
Speaker 1:You got to find something to do and I was praying for that. Lord, give her something, heal me, heal me, heal my daughter, heal my mama. That's my mama's first grandbaby, you know, and that's your mama. You don't want to see your mama. Somebody hurt your mama. You don't want to see your mama. Somebody hurt your mom. You making my mama cry. I'm mad about that. I was mad about that. My mama hurting, my daughter hurting, even though I'm hurting. But look, people hurting around me. You, these people I love, and me I'm just like don't mess with people I love. I'm one of them. I love, god, all that. But don't mess. But don't you play with my mama, but it's just like that. My mama hurt enough. I'm mad about that. That's her first grandbaby. They feel the hurt like we do. So it's like all of that is in you and you're trying to juggle it and you're still trying to be God's wonderful woman and encourage other women around you, but you don't really have that encouragement in you, right.
Speaker 2:And that's what your organization is there for.
Speaker 1:Yep. It's there to help, to encourage women, to edify, to equip, to uplift, to empower. Get yourself back, that's right, and let's go forward, that's right. We're here to help you. What you need somebody to talk to at 3, 4 in the morning, you need somebody to come get your kids for a couple of hours so you can just get a breather. Like we need each other and we can't keep depending on you. Know, men are good, but we can't keep depending on them. They don't understand like we understand.
Speaker 1:Exactly, I think the emotion, chemical thing is just not there in them. Yeah, it's different. I mean they have their place too.
Speaker 2:But, woman to woman. I feel like it's just something different. When you share what's the deepest pain with a woman, they get like it's just something different where, when you share what's the deepest pain with a woman, they get it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, they get that and it won't be. No, oh no. No, they understand because we, nine times out of ten, have been through that. We've been there.
Speaker 1:So, like now, you know there's nothing wrong with me talking to well, there wasn't nothing wrong before talking to women that lost kids. I lost one through sickness, I lost one through a gunshot. It didn't matter how they went, the hurt still was deep in the heart. It was still so. It doesn't matter on what happens. We all dealing with the same emotions, tears, the same hurt, the same pain, the same disappointments, everything, hardship, yes, everything. So we want it. We want to make it better. Like I say, we want to use guys for the wonderful woman. Help you with your credit, help you to get financially stable. You know, I look at it as when a home is financially stable, needs are being met, you get some desires of your heart that take stress off of your, the mother's, mind. So guess what? Now it's like a diagram. Now the mother's not hollering at the kids, she's not being mean and snappy. What's wrong with you, mama?
Speaker 2:Kids saying something, we what.
Speaker 1:Right, that's because we was just in deep thought on how we gonna pay this bill, or we just took a loss. They just took some money out of my account. Now how am I going to get some food? You know what I mean? Things like that we deal with, we do, yeah, and then the kids just come in. Mom, can you help me with this? No, what you want Get away from me, Go to social and the kids are like what?
Speaker 2:I just asked for help.
Speaker 1:Guess what happens with our kids. They're going to be scared to come to us now because we're always snapping or mama's always mad or mama's always crying.
Speaker 2:They're not going to be so quick to come to us, or they can start trying to look for help, like your son.
Speaker 1:In other places. Yeah to help, or don't even ask for help. See, that's what I'm saying. You see how the dynamo effect yeah, you see how it go. One thing leads to another. So let's help here, so that can be better. Now we don't help you financially, you're able to take care of your kids.
Speaker 1:Your mental is in another place now that's right because now majority ain't on bills and all that that's right now you're trying to figure out a better way you could have for your kids, like what their future looking like, you can think on that. We don't even get to think about their future. That's right, because we're so in the day-to-day struggling.
Speaker 1:We don't even get to think about. Oh, let me try to set up a plan, some money put away, or let me see if my child want to get involved in this activity that could take them. Like science stuff you know even other stuff than just sports. You know it's just other things that can help develop our children, but we can't even think about them because we got to deal with the right now, and the right now is such a hard struggle. It taken from us, so then we lose ourselves. That was goals, that was desires that we want to do. It's a whole lot that a woman has to deal with and that's why I said we want God's wonderful woman to take some of that off of you. Let's relieve some of that Christmas time. Oh man, we bless so many women for Christmas.
Speaker 1:Children, I mean, I had food, toys, clothes. I even bought stuff for the mothers, like bath and body works. You know Little stuff to make you feel a little better. Your kids just ain't getting nothing. I'm coming with y'all and I piled up my little car. That's why I told God I need a truck this year. That's on my list too. Jesus, I need an SUV because I piled up my little Malibu I got and I had to take a couple of trips and do a house and then do another house, so I had to go and deliver these toys right before Christmas. So when the kids wake up they have something there, and the mama too, because oftentimes we don't think about ourselves.
Speaker 1:There's just too much going on Yep and you try to go family dollars and get these little toys and all this little stuff, which is great, but you trying to scrape up to get that. So let me just help and make that better. Here goes something they got clothes. It may not be everything what they want, but they got clothes. They got shoes. They got a toy. They got something. You got something and then, knowing that you got a basket of food to break breakfast, cook y'all a little dinner. It's great.
Speaker 1:You don't have to go out, you don't have to go nowhere. You're like family and sometimes family don't receive other families. You come over here with all these kids. You know we treat each other so bad out here. Family treat each other bad. Here comes such and such with all her kids. They would put that up because you know them kids will be. Don't do them like that. Welcome them in too. Help her. She can't help it. If she could make life better she probably would. But things happen, life happens and we be in these situations and if we can help somebody, let's help them. All people need is a helping hand.
Speaker 2:That's right. So, speaking of that, how can people help your organization, because it's a lot of work.
Speaker 1:It is, it is.
Speaker 2:And there's a lot of need.
Speaker 1:It is Like one thing I'm looking into now is trying to get the 501c3,. They said your organization, because it's a lot of work, it is, it is and there's a lot of need. It is like one thing I'm looking into now is trying to get the 501c3. They said so I'm trying to look into that kind of see what that is. And then people just donate. I, I just had people announcing to be like send to the cash app or zelle or something you know, and just send it to god's wonderful woman, because I, god's wonderful woman, got his own cash app, got our own email I don't have a bank account app or Zelle or something you know and just send it to God's Wonderful Woman, because God's Wonderful Woman got its own cash app, got our own email. I don't have a bank account set up yet, but I'm going there. So, hey, I'm at work. Like I said, I'm up.
Speaker 2:Now I actually have the perfect person for you. I know a fundraising consultant, nonprofit for nonprofit organization that can help you through the whole process. Yes, I'm definitely going to need that. Yeah, because it's a lot of work. There's a lot of need, yeah, and it's good to have the proper systems in place to make sure that you know the resources keeps flowing and you know and you can help more people, because a lot of people I know when they hear this, they're going to want to help. Yeah, and I, you know. Do you have a website?
Speaker 1:Yep, god's Wonderful Woman at GoDaddySitescom. Okay. That's our website, and I'm going to put it on there. I made that myself, so don't laugh. Hey, I have to do something, I have to figure it out, and then sometimes everybody's not, you don't have to help.
Speaker 2:That's right.
Speaker 1:And I got a little sense. You know a little knowledge on the computer. So I went on there I said well, I could do this.
Speaker 2:Well, the thing is that you know your passion is in the helping. Yeah, you know that's where your heart is and you don't have to be the know it be all. Yeah, you all the other pieces. So if you know how to put a website together or do some of this work, definitely reach out to Kim. But I'm going to make that recommendation like that connection, because I know she's going to help tremendously in helping set it all up the way and then help with the fundraising consistently, because that's important. It's a lot of work and you cannot do it alone.
Speaker 2:It takes a village, like you said multiple times. And you know, like I said earlier, the one statement that you said, that really touched me. It was just like if I just get that little bit of help, that little bit of help, that's it, you know, and some people just have that right there.
Speaker 1:Then I'm right there, you know, and I could be okay. I'll be okay, I will be okay, because it's not going to always be like this, that's right. But I just need this little help right now. That's right now, and that's because I'm a witness. I'm not like that, no more. That's true, look at that, I'm a witness. I struggled and I lost a lot and I told you everything. But guess what? Now Every need is met. I got more than enough, and you're giving too, and I'm giving, yes, like I told God, you get me out of this. Oh, another woman ain't about to go, another mother ain't going through this.
Speaker 2:The one thing that you also said was like the kingdom of God suffered violence and the violence taken by force.
Speaker 1:I was like that's it, that's my word and that is the scripture that I stand on with God.
Speaker 2:You're like we are taking it by force, we taking it by force, it would not happen to another single woman no, and I would not allow that.
Speaker 1:Like no, if you working and you just need a little bit help, reach out. We are here to help you. And, like you said, thanksgiving is coming up, christmas is coming up. So, yes, I'm going to need that help to get the donations in, because last year I was able to do, I think about seven, about seven women and their kids for Christmas.
Speaker 1:But I always wanted to do more. Right? I want to do more. I want to make it even bigger, right, where I can have a whole warehouse. They can just come in, get your stuff, yeah, load your car up, get you some food, get you a coat, you know just that's. I want that. Come and get the help you need and it's no cost to you, no questions, no questions. Eggs no, nothing, because I'm not worried about that. I want you to get what you need. That way you will have a better, healthy household. A healthy household. If the needs are met, the household's going to be healthy. It's not going to be a lot of organ. It's not going to be a lot of kids running in and out they don't know where they're at. It's not going to be mama fussing all day. It's not going to go that way.
Speaker 2:I think one of the things I also like about the program that you're offering about your organization is that you also do the education. Yeah, to meet their immediate needs, but you're also offering education so that in their finances, so that they can be self-sufficient too, so they're not just leaning on the, because a lot of the women that you're helping are just right above that poverty line. You know, like just you know and so you know it's the education, the supports and then the resources.
Speaker 2:That combination is really I think that's a great thing, that sets you apart and that's all they need.
Speaker 1:That is all they need. And like, when I was looking at what I wanted to do and I was like, well, there's really not a program out here like that With, besides, you know, government funding you know what I mean, like something like it, I was like I can't really go off of nobody else and how they even did it. So I was like you got to show me exactly how to do this and how to get the women involved in not being prideful or scared to get the help, because we're not. It's no shame, it's no shame and and it's everything you say, if you, we could in secret. I don't share any of that. I don't share none of that. I don't share nothing about nobody's income. I don't even ask questions like that. I don't even know sometimes if it's real.
Speaker 2:No, but you feel the pain. Because when you look, in their eyes because you've been there, you're like, you know Just exactly how you're feeling, right now.
Speaker 1:That's the thing is, I'm not even questioning, I'm just giving to you, and I even posted it like on Facebook. Last year we did Christmas and I didn't even care what city you lived in. People was living in other states. Wow, I had to ship they Christmas gift to them. But I was like, oh, I didn't pay attention to that, so it's just me doing it and not really paying attention. I was like, oh, I didn't pay attention to that. I didn't know I had to go ship. I'm shipping big old boxes full of toys, but that's something that I just want you need to help.
Speaker 1:I don't want nobody being left behind. I don't want nobody to go through that hurt, that disappointment, that pain, that misery, that stuff that I went through. Pain, that misery, that stuff that I went through. Like, if I can stop yours and stop the enemy for just trying to you take yourself out or you to do things that you don't want to do sleeping with men and women and other things just to make things happen, you know, then let me do that. I want to stop the enemy at his tracks. That's right. Get off of these people's heads, get off their mind, get off their finances, get off their children. I just want him stopped at his feet. Wow. So if I can step in and help you with that, oh, I got one thing off of you. Oh, if one child can get saved, oh, he got saved. You don't got that one. If I could just do one, I'm okay with just starting with one, and however it may go, that's however God may take it, but just give me one. I'll work with you, I'll walk with you. I got kids. I mentor, I talk with, I help them out.
Speaker 1:Young ladies 25, some got kids, some don't. I'm here to help you. That's amazing. I don't care how old. You are you old and can't get it together? We can. Iron sharpens iron. We can help each other. You may be helpful in another part of you. You may help me. That's right. I won't just take it, just give, give, give. I'm going to take something in too. You know, help me out, like you just gave me some good nuggets. Help too. You know, help me out, like you just gave me some good nuggets. Help me, because I'm doing something from the from the scratch, from the beginning.
Speaker 1:I have no idea how to run a business. I'm I always worked in corporate america. I got married december 16th. I was fired that tuesday. I was like what things happen? I was like what happened? God part was like yep, yep, you got you. Uh, your man, your husband. Now you're gonna go sit down. But I forgot a prayer that I had prayed when I was in my struggling time, that I did want a husband to take care of me. Oh, I did say that I want to be a stay-at-home mom. I did say I wanted to work in ministry full-time. I did say I want to be a stay-at-home mom. I did say I wanted to work in ministry full-time.
Speaker 2:I did say I wanted to have my own business.
Speaker 1:I said all these things Wow. Years ago, before I even met him. He had to remind me of the things that I had prayed for, wow, and so when it happened, I was like, oh, I wasn't ready, but God's timing was perfect, and that's another thing I'm taking in. Hey, not being in control, that's another thing.
Speaker 2:women, I'm not in control of anything now like I'm not in because you've been doing it by yourself the whole time you got your system down everything now, I'm not in control of anything. But to speak to that, I feel like this is God helping you have enough time to dedicate to your organization.
Speaker 1:Yep, and that's what it is.
Speaker 2:Because you need that person to take care of you, your husband to take care of you, so that you can then help these women in need.
Speaker 1:I need my focus. Yes, he had to switch my focus. Focus, yes, my focus. He had to switch my focus. Now I need to focus on the things of God, the things that he has given me to do out here in the community. That's amazing, because I wanted to be global. I wanted to just be in Indiana. I wanted to go worldwide because we ain't the only ones struggling, that's right Poverty in Indiana.
Speaker 2:That's right.
Speaker 1:It's a lot of people, it's a lot of surrounding states. I'm just going to start it here, but I want it to go out. Take it out to the next state. Hey, make it better if you can. That's right. I'm not mad about it. All I'm about is people getting help, people getting saved, people getting healed, people getting delivered. That's all I'm for. That's amazing. That's all I'm for. That's amazing. That's all I'm for.
Speaker 1:Just so we can stop this enemy from taking our people out. That's great, wow. Because he's taking us out mentally, physically, financially, spiritually. He's just moving Mm-hmm. So we need all that to come together so we can beat him at this game. Like, stop, that's right. God said if my people that are called by my name humble themselves. He said my people, y'all come together. He basically said come together, seek me, that's right, come to me. I got this, he said. Then I will. That's good, here I will heal. He said he would do it. That's right, he will do it. So why we can't be the people to come together? Like you said, my scripture, the kingdom of God suffered violence, but we're the violent. We take it back by force. We are the violent, that's right.
Speaker 1:I looked at that like at the movie guys Wonder Woman. She was violent about her people. Look, she wasn't playing, she was not playing. I mean, I looked at that whole movie and it was just like I saw me, Like movie. And it was just like I saw me, like I just saw me. You don't know who you was, you don't know the power that you have. She didn't know none of that at the beginning, but she started learning, she came to herself and she was like oh, oh. But then she started seeing people getting afflicted and people getting hurt and she was like no, stop. And that's like I said that was just me, it was just no me, it was just there's. No, you're not about to keep doing that to these people, not our people. This is God. God gives us these gifts, these anointings, to help on this earth, not for you just to keep and to sit on that, that's right.
Speaker 1:He gave you these storms, these struggles, these trials to make things better. He said all things work together for our good. That's right. And now I'm seeing the good. I couldn't see the good when my son passed. I couldn't see the good when my first one passed, because I prayed that you heal him and I believed that you was going to do it. I prayed that you heal and deliver him and I believed that you was going to do it. But God did it in his own way. But the way that he did it gave me more room to do this next thing for him on earth. That's gonna save millions, a multitude. But I had to lose that just to save a multitude, just like jesus, that's right. God lost his only son, but look how much it helped and how many people saved because of that one act. Yeah, and and it's and it's hard. You don't look at things that way, but it is that way, that's right it's almost like you know how they say that.
Speaker 2:You know if you haven't walked, you know a mile in a shoe like don't you know because. But you have a unique situation in that you've been a single mom for a very long time. You, you know all the struggles that come with that. You also have lost not just one but two kids and you, you have a oh my God an awareness so that so you can help so many more people. Yes, you know, it's like I got you. I understand where you are coming from, I understand the pain and the struggle and that's why I was saying it's almost like you can see in the eye. You don't even have to ask the question, I see.
Speaker 1:And I know, I can feel you. I can feel you, I know, and I'm like, oh God, this is not mine. I know and I'm like, oh God, this is not mine, it's somebody else's. But it's real, it's real and I'm like if I had to go through all that to help somebody else, then I'm all for it. I'm all for it. God, I have to have that mindset again, because I used to have that mindset. Lord, you can use me, you can do whatever you want to do, and sometimes you probably need to watch what you just said, because he going to do what he going to do with you. That's right. But I had that heart for him. I got that heart for God. I love God, I love his word, I stand on his word. He just say his word. He didn't got to show me. Let me read it in a word.
Speaker 2:I'm all about it All about it.
Speaker 1:It's real, it's done. I mean we may not see it, but it's done before my oh my god. Before we moved into our new home. Oh my god, that was. It's a story behind that. That's in the book too, okay.
Speaker 1:I can't wait for this book, I know, but before we moved our new home, I had our house packed up about a whole year because I believe God for a new home. He told me it was gonna do it. I believe him for it and I was making the efforts to get it done. I packed our house up. I sold our furniture. Wow, my kids was like mama, what are we going to eat on? What? Are we going to sit down and say I don't know, we're going to figure it out, I don't know what, but we're moving.
Speaker 2:Wow.
Speaker 1:They got so discouraged. Soon I'm saying, yes, we are. And when I was able to buy that house, wow, my first home I bought. Wow, that's what I'm saying. You start at this little place as a single mother, but god takes you there after you go through it. I'm a witness, I went through it all, after all the evictions, all the losses, living with my mama back in her basement Lights, water, no food. You know what I mean, oh, my goodness. But look how God takes you to that man. I bought a three-bedroom home, two-car garage, nice backyard patio, I mean living room, dining room, kitchen. It's great, oh, so happy.
Speaker 2:But look, what God does. Tell me the name of your book again. I really like it. It's God's.
Speaker 1:Wonderful Woman. The Process from Me to you Wow, that's good, that's what it is, and it is. It's my whole process of how I became God's Wonderful Woman, because I'm his God, I'm his Wonderful Woman, I'm the Wonder woman out here. You want me to do it? Okay, I'll do it. Wow, and that's my attitude now.
Speaker 2:All right, this is what we're doing.
Speaker 1:This is what we're doing. That's great. This is what we're doing. Okay, you're taking me through this. You're taking me through this, okay, and it's not about me. You got to look at life. It's not about you. Your trials, your struggles, it's not about you. Your heartaches, your losses, your disappointments, all that it's not about you. There's a greater good, a greater work in for that.
Speaker 1:And you got to get past you, just to see that you get past you, your loss, your misery, your stuff. And it's a process to see that you get past you, your loss, your misery, your stuff. And it's a process to do that. Now, I'm not saying do that in one day. No, I'm still going through that process now after losing my son. But I'm better, not like I was a couple of months ago, because it's almost what been nine months now, ten months now. So now, so it's like, hey, I'm better than what I was, but there was a process that I had to go through to get to get to this point. Right, but you have to know that it's not about you. So you got to get up for somebody else, even if you don't have another child to get up for. See, I had another child I had to get up for. I had a husband I had to get up for, but then there's a people out there they need this they need this god's wonderful woman.
Speaker 1:So, kim, you gotta deny. You, put you to the side, put away your loss, put away your hurt, put away your disappointment. Ah, but this hurt too bad. That was me, I don't know. This hurt too bad. But then I'm talking to myself yeah, but you gotta do it. No, I don't want to do it. You back and forth with yourself because you see the need and you know what needs to be done. Self don't want to do it. Self want to be mad. Self want to paint the city red. Self want to go crazy For real. Self don't want to do nothing right. And if Self is greater than you, just may do everything Self want to do. But God is greater, because greater is in me Than he that is in this world. That's right, he's greater. So of course he ain't going to let me go. I am Guess what I got to do Humble myself, submit, bow down, accept and get up. So I have to hold that process.
Speaker 1:And it's not easy, like I say, I'm still hold that process. And it's not easy, like I say, I still struggle with it. I was just now being okay with my first son being gone. Then, a couple of years later, here he comes again. It's like, wow, so you got an enemy that's working against you too. He don't want you to get to that blessed place. That's what he's trying to stop me, that's his whole agenda to stop me from getting to this place flowing with milk and honey that God calls me to dwell in.
Speaker 1:Because that place is going to lead to other people, places Because now you at your place, you can go back and restore to them, to their place, because god said I will go and prepare a place for you. A lot of people think about death and all that, but if we just think about it in another way, there's a place he prepared for you with the ears, like he said, place formed with milk and honey. We got to think about your blessed place. That's right, not always the death place, like a lot of people look at their scripture and may interpret it that way. And, yeah, it's right too. But there's another revelation there your blessed place, the place he called you to dwell, to thrive in, to flourish. He said, blessed is a man that has his own. He want us to own things, he want us to have things. So he get me there.
Speaker 1:Now I need to go back and get others there, because that's what it's all about. It's about the kingdom of heaven and the kingdom up on this earth. We got to display that up on this earth and we got to live it like that. And the only way we can do it is if we stand together and help each other. We connect. Connect with each other, mentor each other, edify each other, lift up each other. Be there in whichever way you can. God blesses us to help others, he said. Men were given to your bosom.
Speaker 2:That's true. Yeah, they did so we got to be blessed to give unto other men bosoms.
Speaker 1:You know, that's so true, yeah, so we got to get to that place. So my struggle, my journey, was this god's, from god's wonderful woman process from me to you.
Speaker 2:That's mine and I cannot wait for that book to come out, because I feel like it's just this is just a tip of the iceberg when it comes to the story. I know we didn't have enough time to like deep, yeah, go deep, dive into some of the things, but but just for those that are out there like I'm sure you can hear the passion, you know, and there is a lot to be done, there's a lot of need, there's a lot of help that is needed here and we're called to help each other, you know. So please reach out. I'm going to put the you know all the links and everything in the comments so that way you can reach out to Kim and either for you to get some resources or to be blessed if you're needing that kind of help. So please do not be shy and thank you so much, kim, for coming on.
Speaker 1:Thank you for having me. I'm so blessed to be here. I mean, you're doing a wonderful thing. You're doing the same thing. You're giving back to women.
Speaker 2:Thank you.
Speaker 1:Because you're giving back to women, thank you, because you're giving back to me. Like, without this platform, where would my voice be? I don't. I'm not very vocal like that on social media. You may see me on there praying, but yeah, I'm not like that. I don't get out there and and promote like you do. You help others, you, you pave the way and for others, you making a way, you making the crooked places straight. I mean, you're making it smoother. That's what you're doing. You're making it smoother. Thank you for others, because with that, like the photo shoot, everything is like you lift up. It's like you started something, thank you, and now it's going. It's going to be greater. It's going to be bigger. Your blessed place, yeah, yeah, think about your blessed place.
Speaker 2:That building, you looked at that, you walked in your blessed place Right, it's coming, it is coming, it's coming and I receive that yes, your blessed place.
Speaker 2:Yeah, because my goal is to be able to empower other women and also help them feel confident. Yes, you know, like you were saying, you know, women we mask it all up and I want my space to be a place where they can come and be catered to Yep In that time that we're just yeah, we are there for a photo shoot, but also be able to just receive Yep, you know and just feel you did yeah, so thank you so much for saying that you gave us the Hollywood experience.
Speaker 1:I loved it. I just thank you. I appreciate you.
Speaker 2:No thank you. Thank you so much for trusting me with that. But yeah, until next time, please make sure you be a helping hand to somebody, because you never know what people are going through and sometimes they just need that little bit of help to get to the next level and you can be that help. Be that help, take care, bye, bye.
